Sara's husband would find her on the sofa crying when he came home and would reassure her that she would get better.
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Intervieweuse: Puis vous m’avez dit que votre conjoint travaillait. Normalement il arrivait un peu disons le soir, l’après-midi, le soir…
Ouais.
Intervieweuse: Est-ce que vous sentez que lui il aidait.
Oui, lui, il essayait, il prenait la petite dès qu’il arrivait, puis il me … On parlait puis il me rassurait sur… J’avais l’impression de ne rien faire pour la maison, là, de ne pas faire de ménage. J’étais très apathique pendant un bout de temps. Puis non, il m’a aidée puis je… C’est juste que t’sais, je l’attendais de pied ferme, là, quand il arrivait. Parce que t’sais j’avais beaucoup de misère à passer à travers mes journées. La plupart du temps, il arrivait, puis j’étais en train de pleurer sur le divan avec le bébé dans les bras. Ce n’était pas… Puis là, je m’excusais parce que… Mais là… Il me rassurait, puis il me disait que même si… C’est normal, puis tu vas passer à travers, puis il m’encourageait, puis non, il a vraiment été …
Intervieweuse: Présent…
Oui
[Interviewer: And you told me that your partner was working. Normally he would come home, let’s say, in the afternoon or evening…
Yeah.
Interviewer: Do you feel like he was helping you?
Yes, he tried. He would take the little one as soon as he got home, and he would… we would talk, and he would reassure me… I felt like I wasn’t doing anything around the house, like I wasn’t cleaning. I was very apathetic for a while. And no, he helped me, and I… It’s just that, you know, I was really waiting for him anxiously when he arrived. Because I had such a hard time getting through my days. Most of the time, when he came home, I was sitting on the couch crying with the baby in my arms. It wasn’t… And then I would apologize because… But then… He would reassure me and tell me that it was normal, that I would get through it, and he encouraged me. No, he really was…
Interviewer: Present…
Yes.] Translation from the original French.
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